Frequently I’m asked what’s going on? I sometimes have trouble answering the question. I’m not sure if it’s because there isn’t much going on, or I just don’t know how much they want to know. My husband tells me that I have trouble asking people to help, that I have trouble assuming that people want to know. I am learning though. Today I gave a baby shower for a friend and the girl that was helping called the night before and asked about coffee, I asked her to take care of it. I realized that often times when I am planning things, I just assume that I will do everything, and then when people offer to help I have trouble telling them what to do, even though they are asking. It’s a mix of perfectionism (by doing it myself, I know it will be done the way I want) and fear that I would be asking too much and that I would be misunderstood. I guess we are all a work in progress, and I’m learning to just ask.
On another note, there are very few people in this world that really know how to press my buttons and make me mad. I have recently found myself working with one of those people, and I’m feeling very challenged when I evaluate my response. It’s kind of like that quote “no one can make you feel inferior without your permission”. The funny thing is that it’s not so much what the person is saying, it’s how they say it. That tone that forces you to make that decision to give them permission or not. I’ve watched my husband learn how to respond to that tone, and I definitely use his experience to help me know how to respond. There is a part of me that wonders if there is a way to confront the person and maybe challenge that tone, but then I also realize that maybe I wouldn’t be on the receiving end of that tone if my response diffuses the tone instead of adds to it. Many lessons to be learned.
Kyle is turning 30 soon!!!